Last month, Do Sask followers were asked to post their single most frustrating thing about dating in 2018. While compiling the responses, it became obvious that the most frustrating thing about dating is online dating. This post features all comments organized by recurring themes.
The term ‘online dating’ has become ubiquitous within the dating scene in general. According to an eharmony report, 36% of single Canadians have an online dating profile to increase their odds of finding a romantic relationship in person.
And according to you… online dating is kinda annoying.
What’s the most frustrating thing about online dating in 2018?
These are the biggest pains you’re currently facing in the dating scene. Keep in mind that Do Sask’s sample audience size is limited, so there may be other factors that have been left out.
1. When your group of friends is getting coupled up and there’s not a single mate left for you.
“Trying to meet people outside of your immediate circle of friends and having a genuine conversation with them.”
“When you are the only single person you know in your age bracket. And none of your friends know any singles so you are always the odd one out. And vacation prices are always based on double occupancy.”
“There are very few ways of meeting people outside of dating apps and most of my single friends are gay.”
2. When your match’s online dating profile doesn’t match the person sitting across from you.
“So many people are in relationships but try to hook up with someone by putting a fake profile online. They talk to you then tell you “[oh] btw I’m married so we have to keep this on the DL”. How frustrating!”
“The lies, oh god the lies!! “5’8” (as I tower over him), “athletic build” (video game couch potato build). It’s like, just be honest people.”
“How fake people can be over the internet.”
3. When unsolicited nudes arrive in your messages. C’mon, it’s 2018!
“The inappropriate pictures some men send, without warning ⚠, on dating apps!”
4. When people want to skip ahead to a quick hookup instead of developing a genuine connection.
“People wanting to “date” for the sole purpose of having sex.”
“Dating apps suck for meeting up with real people and always having to have the hookup convo.”
“Finding someone that is serious about relationships and not asking if I’m DTF or if I’m interested in sleeping with younger men.”
“Meeting someone who is truly looking for a relationship.”
“I find is a lot of people want instant gratification. You’re talking to someone and showing interest and if you don’t immediately want to be their girlfriend they move on.”
5. When a combination of infinite options, unrealistic standards, and flaky partners make it hard to think long-term.
“From a male perspective…. the high expectations and constant rejection. Very frustrating.”
“The “way” to meet people but none of them fully tell the truth online…..then you “waste” time talking to them…then meet them…..then never see them again…..”
“The choice paralysis of online dating. It affects both sexes, and can manifest different ways, but it’s all frustrating in the end. Everything could be going so well but then they ghost, or bench you for another option… Other times you find yourself hyper-analyzing a potential partner, wondering how many red flags are too many? Are you just being overly critical? Are you settling? Or do you actually deserve better?”
“When you are excited about someone and then they ghost you. When you didn’t see it coming and are left wondering what happened. It makes it difficult to continue to open up when there is a new connection.”
“Finding people who say that they are interested then they tell you something all together different months down the road.”
6. When your desire for an old-fashioned meet-cute conflicts with your deliberate intention to be found.
“Dating sucks in your 30’s. It is scary and unnerving!! I hate meeting people online so I just don’t bother.”
“How the internet accelerated the process. Most of you can remember the not-so-distant past when relationships formed authentically. Memories are made when things aren’t rushed and I miss that.”
“It’s hard to narrow it down to one thing!! I know online dating is super popular but I really miss a good ol’ fashioned date with someone you met the old fashioned way! But I feel disconnected when I’m not on dating sites! It’s hard to meet someone that you don’t work with!! Oh the joys of dating in 2018.”
“I’d say the social dynamic of texting and messenger is annoying. I wouldn’t even mind talking on the phone these days but everybody is scared to have phone conversations.”
“The most frustrating thing about dating in 2018 is not being able to see facial expressions when online dating.”
Thanks to all the Saskatoon singles who took the time to leave their comments for this post!
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