Online Dating in 2018: Six of the Most Frustrating Things According to You

2018 online dating scene is a pain

Last month, Do Sask followers were asked to post their single most frustrating thing about dating in 2018. While compiling the responses, it became obvious that the most frustrating thing about dating is online datingThis post features all comments organized by recurring themes. 

The term ‘online dating’ has become ubiquitous within the dating scene in general. According to an eharmony report, 36% of single Canadians have an online dating profile to increase their odds of finding a romantic relationship in person.

And according to you… online dating is kinda annoying.

What’s the most frustrating thing about online dating in 2018?

These are the biggest pains you’re currently facing in the dating scene. Keep in mind that Do Sask’s sample audience size is limited, so there may be other factors that have been left out.

1. When your group of friends is getting coupled up and there’s not a single mate left for you.

Trying to meet people outside of your immediate circle of friends and having a genuine conversation with them.”

“When you are the only single person you know in your age bracket. And none of your friends know any singles so you are always the odd one out. And vacation prices are always based on double occupancy.”

“There are very few ways of meeting people outside of dating apps and most of my single friends are gay.”

2. When your match’s online dating profile doesn’t match the person sitting across from you.

“So many people are in relationships but try to hook up with someone by putting a fake profile online. They talk to you then tell you “[oh] btw I’m married so we have to keep this on the DL”. How frustrating!”

The lies, oh god the lies!! “5’8” (as I tower over him), “athletic build” (video game couch potato build). It’s like, just be honest people.”

“How fake people can be over the internet.”

3. When unsolicited nudes arrive in your messages. C’mon, it’s 2018!

“The inappropriate pictures some men send, without warning ⚠, on dating apps!”

4. When people want to skip ahead to a quick hookup instead of developing a genuine connection.

“People wanting to “date” for the sole purpose of having sex.”

“Dating apps suck for meeting up with real people and always having to have the hookup convo.”

Finding someone that is serious about relationships and not asking if I’m DTF or if I’m interested in sleeping with younger men.”

“Meeting someone who is truly looking for a relationship.”

“I find is a lot of people want instant gratification. You’re talking to someone and showing interest and if you don’t immediately want to be their girlfriend they move on.”

5. When a combination of infinite options, unrealistic standards, and flaky partners make it hard to think long-term.

“From a male perspective…. the high expectations and constant rejection. Very frustrating.”

“The “way” to meet people but none of them fully tell the truth online…..then you “waste” time talking to them…then meet them…..then never see them again…..

“The choice paralysis of online dating. It affects both sexes, and can manifest different ways, but it’s all frustrating in the end. Everything could be going so well but then they ghost, or bench you for another option… Other times you find yourself hyper-analyzing a potential partner, wondering how many red flags are too many? Are you just being overly critical? Are you settling? Or do you actually deserve better?”

When you are excited about someone and then they ghost you. When you didn’t see it coming and are left wondering what happened. It makes it difficult to continue to open up when there is a new connection.”

“Finding people who say that they are interested then they tell you something all together different months down the road.”

6. When your desire for an old-fashioned meet-cute conflicts with your deliberate intention to be found.

“Dating sucks in your 30’s. It is scary and unnerving!! I hate meeting people online so I just don’t bother.”

“How the internet accelerated the process. Most of you can remember the not-so-distant past when relationships formed authentically. Memories are made when things aren’t rushed and I miss that.”

“It’s hard to narrow it down to one thing!! I know online dating is super popular but I really miss a good ol’ fashioned date with someone you met the old fashioned way! But I feel disconnected when I’m not on dating sites! It’s hard to meet someone that you don’t work with!! Oh the joys of dating in 2018.”

“I’d say the social dynamic of texting and messenger is annoying. I wouldn’t even mind talking on the phone these days but everybody is scared to have phone conversations.”

“The most frustrating thing about dating in 2018 is not being able to see facial expressions when online dating.”

Thanks to all the Saskatoon singles who took the time to leave their comments for this post!

What’s the most frustrating thing about online dating in 2018? Join the DO SASK FACEBOOK GROUP to share yours, or stay anonymous and email info@dosask.com.

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Saskatoon Speed Dating Connects People with Purpose

Throw out the old rules of speed dating for a more interactive and connective experience.
90% of our dates matched with at least one other person.

Last week, the people of YXE got out of their comfort zones and off of Tinder for the first ever Saskatoon Speed Dating Night presented by Do Sask.

They met face-to-face with great new people in a casual, relaxed atmosphere courtesy of The Hose & Hydrant.

I asked all attendees to ditch their smartphones in favour or real connection for a night of socializing.

We turned traditional “speed dating” upside down for a more interactive experience by providing conversation starters, games, and plenty of nibbles at the start.

The only rules of the night were:

  1. Don’t ask about your dates’ profession.
  2. Don’t ask where your dates live.

Instead, I encouraged the singles to ask each other about their favourite hobbies, food, activities, and interests. When folks talk about the things they love doing it makes them come alive while demonstrating the best parts of their personalities.

Jolene Watson, Certified Myers-Briggs Personality Practitioner of Clarity Coaching dropped by.

She briefly talked about the myth of opposite attractions, having clear goals in mind, and knowing exactly what type of personality you have before looking for an ideal partner.  As a Certified Myers-Briggs Practitioner, she also provided insight on overcoming stressful social situations as an introvert.

People Bingo was a fun ice breaker game to kick off night.

I gave participants 10 minutes to mingle, introduce themselves, and find people who match the traits on the card. They had to put the person’s name in the corresponding box or have the person sign the appropriate square.  The first person to fill five boxes across or down yelled BINGO!

Then it was go time! Speed dating ran for the rest of the night.

Each date was 4 minutes long. They only had 30 seconds in between each one to choose whether their date was a friend, a yes, or a no on their match card. This gave people a chance to go with their gut instincts. At the end of the night, I asked each participant to hand in their match cards.

Contact details were only shared if there was a mutual match.

Over 90% of people had at least one match!

Of the people attending, 9/10 walked away with at least one match.

That’s what I call a successful start to Do Sask’s singles night!

Here’s what the singles had to say about Saskatoon Speed Dating:

4 stars –  “Fun & interesting – great new thing to do to push yourself out of your comfort zone.  :)”

5 stars – “Casual, no pressure, easy, comfortable.”

5 stars – “Very easy environment to start talking to people. Host has good energy. Opener game was an awesome ice breaker.”

4 stars – “More single people should try this! Much better way to meet people.”

4 stars – “It was a lovely evening.”

5 stars – “GREAT TIME! Amy was great. A group of us stayed drinking together until around midnight.”

5 stars – “Casual, low pressure, cool people.”

“I had fun 🙂 I hope you get more ppl and it grows cause it’s a great idea and a nice environment to meet people 🙂 good luck!!”

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